I read a book

... and its overdue so i should return it :) I really have enjoyed some of the self help books by Dr. Laura, she seems to have a very level head and I enjoy the way she is able to tell it how it is. The book i just finished was Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, it was good but also a slap in the face wake up call as to how I treat my husband, so not a completely comfortable read but it definitely had some value. Last night is when i finished it, i wrote in my journal different points that I'd hope to work on, some of them are from this book others are from previous books or good advice I have heard, I don't know that any of you will find this of any value but I'll list what I've chosen to be a goal for myself in order to have a more harmonious family.

• Appreciate spouses hard work outside of the home in both work and schooling, express gratitude.


• Arrange planned meals to be when my husband is home (since he has an odd schedule the big meal will be lunch)


• Do chores and prepare meals while he is away and use the time he is home as down time/ family time


• Allow spouse an hour each day to unwind


• Find time each day to both get outside and exercise


• Ask my husband for help nicely and provide options for things that need to be taken care of so there is less "telling" and more freedom of choice.


• Anticipate hard days and allow breaks to keep from overreacting and being stressed.


• If the day is too daunting focus on one room and allow more time for playing with kids.


• Appreciate all the blessings i have and give thanks


• If feeling "unloved" or "under-appreciated" focus on giving to or thanking my spouse or someone else.


• Give more hugs


• Speak softer, more ladylike and be aware that anger is a choice.


• Know that every day, week, month or year cant be perfect and that hard times happen but can't stay around forever.


• Treat spouse how I would like to be treated.

Wish me luck on being better :)